Growing up as a girl has no doubt provided some challenges for me. One of them, probably the biggest one, was the lack of confidence I always had in myself. I don’t know if there was ever a time growing up that I remember feeling perfectly happy about who I was and what I looked like. I always felt like I could be funnier, smarter, prettier, happier, you name it. I’m sure that I’m not the only girl who remembers feeling this way. In fact, I would bet that there are a large amount of women who can perfectly relate to this.
I know that when we talk about a lack of confidence in girls, people often go straight into attack mode on the tabloids, TV, magazines, media, etc. But I’m here to tell you that as a girl who struggled with confidence most of my life, it wasn’t the tabloids who taught me to feel that way. I learned it from seeing countless women in my life constantly looking down on themselves; never feeling they were enough, physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.
Sure, I would see women on magazines and wished I looked like them but if I would have had just one constant source in my life REFUSING to let the media influence her, I know that I would have felt the same way. What kids are taught in their home can triumph anything the media tries to teach them, you just might have to say your message a little louder and more consistently than the media does.
The truth is, I have one regret from high school and it was my lack of confidence. I never thought I was enough and I darn well should have. It has taken years for me to finally believe that I’m an awesome person who is pretty and if someone doesn’t think that then I don’t care to have that person in my life. They will just be missing out on my awesome-ness :). Yeah, everyone has faults. I complain too much, I do have weight to lose, I stink at being a good wife and mom somedays. But at the end of the day I’m doing my very best. That’s all I should expect from myself. After all, how can I truly love other people if I don’t love myself?
So what will I do to teach my Evie girl to be confident? SHOW HER. I won’t just tell her what a confident women looks like, I will show her in my actions EVERY SINGLE DAY and never EVER falter in those actions. Regardless of how bloated I feel that day, regardless of which recent business idea completely failed, regardless of what size pant I’m currently in, regardless of how crappy of a “mom job” I feel like I’m doing that day. I won’t let a day go by without her knowing that she has a mom who truly believes in herself.
This “believe in yourself” princess print from Artissimo Designs is 100% perfect for Evie’s room. I hope she wakes up every single day, sees the picture, and gets ready to conquer the world!
Evie’s outfit came from Swap.com
Roxana B. Photography took my beautiful pictures!
What are some things that you do to instill confidence in your kids? I would love to hear your thoughts!